Every once in a while, Dawne and I make a point of taking a time out from the world and all it’s attendant cares and pressures. Yesterday was one of those days, and to tell the truth, I cannot recommend these days enough. While we do try and spend several evenings a week together, every now and again we take an entire guilt free day just for the two of us.
Of course, if you have read this blog for any length of time you will know that Dawne and I go about things in a, shall we say, atypical fashion… Case in point: what we did yesterday. While most couples taking a mutual time out for each other will generally do something at least semi-romantic such as a walk in the park or go out for dinner, my love and I chose instead to watch What The Bleep? Down The Rabbit Hole. And of course we had to pause it frequently to discuss various points as they came up.
What’s that you say? You’ve never heard of What The Bleep? I won’t try to sell you on the film except to say that it is truly mind bending stuff. It discusses how modern quantum physics relates to the Law of Attraction and modern concepts of self and spirituality. To say deep wouldn’t be too far off the mark. But we like that kind of stuff. And that is the point of taking a day off: doing something just for the two of you.
It’s a day in which neither the past nor the future have any bearing on your lives. It is just the here and today, focused exclusively on the now that is the two of you.
That is the sole point of a time out: to take time out for each other, and in the process, take yourselves out of time. Just be with each other, engaging in something that the two of you truly enjoy. Forgetting all that has been and ignoring all that has yet to be is the best way that I know of to reconnect with the one person who is truly important to your life.
So ask yourself, in the here and now, “Do I need a time out?” And then do it, you’ll be glad you did.
Cheers, Marc
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I agree taking time off from the daily routine is very important. We spent yesterday redesigning our house plans.
First floor is almost done. Amen!
We both experience physical signs when we need downtime.This is something we need to work on so the tension in my neck doesn’t come or his headache starts.
We are aware of the necessity of downtime but often get caught up in the work load.
Of course since we are together 24/7 you may think it doesn’t happen but work in right in the next room for both of us too.
Great read Marc
Like you, Dawne and I are together 24/7, and we have found that it’s actually harder than if we worked separate jobs. I think that being together constantly only serves to blur the line between professional time and personal time, hence the “forget everything, just be together” tack.
Hi, Marc: You’re so right about needing together time. We struggle to find it. It’s not that it’s not a priority, it’s just there is so much that truly does take precedence, at least for the time being. Your reminder is very welcome, indeed, and I’m going to step up my efforts for more “us” time. Coming right after a great vacation should be perfect timing!
I’ve seen “What the Bleep…”, twice, and highly recommend it. So glad you enjoyed it! Isn’t it fun to think of such profound concepts? How wonderful that you and Dawn can share such discussions!