Kissing Tips for every situation

“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”
Ingrid Bergman

Kissing Tips for all situationsThe kiss is a natural part of being human, and has been such throughout history and across cultures. It is used to show respect and affection. Perhaps it is because the kiss is so natural that many people don’t think very hard about good kissing, and as a result join the ranks of the bad kisser. Kissing falls into two distinct types: the social kiss and the romantic kiss.

The social kiss is one between friends or family members, and can extend to complete strangers. The exact details vary from one society to the next, but the essential premise is one of an affectionate greeting. The romantic kiss is far more intimate, displaying strong affection for a particular person, like a boyfriend or lover. We’ll go into a bit more detail on both of these in a moment, but first let’s do a quick run through of the basics of kissing. These instructions will not cover French Kissing, as that is a separate subject.

Kissing Tips – The Basics

The first, and possibly most important, tip is Pay Attention To Your Breath! Bad breath is one of the biggest turn offs known to man, so make sure that you brush your teeth and carry some breath mints with you at all times. Some people, knowing that they have chronically bad breath, carry around a travel sized toothbrush and toothpaste kit for use after snacks and meals. Take some breath mint or gum shortly after eating, and well before kissing, as you don’t want a mouth full of stuff while you kiss. It will just distract you from the task at hand.

Moisten your lips slightly. This lubricates your lips, letting them slide over your partner’s lips more easily, making for a more pleasant experience for both of you. Additionally, try to avoid excess lip gloss or lipstick, unless you want your partner to wear it as well.

Position yourselves for comfort. Stand close to your partner, and tilt your head slightly to one side. Your partner’s head should be tilted slightly in the opposite direction. This avoids the nose grind, letting the lip lock proceed unimpeded. For romantic kissing, closing the eyes is usually the way to go. A social kiss is usually done with eyes open.
Finally, don’t forget to breath! Breath gently through your nose, letting your mouth do its thing. Most importantly, stay relaxed. A relaxed kiss is a natural and thoroughly enjoyable experience, whereas a stiff or tense kiss is wooden, false, and all sorts of unpleasant.

Now that we have covered the basics, let’s move on to kissing tips for some specific situations, shall we?

Kissing Tips – The Social Kiss

The social kiss can range widely in style and intimacy, from a politicians perfunctory “kiss the baby” routine, to the hugs and kisses we greet family members with. The most common social kiss is bestowed upon the cheek. This kiss is a quick greeting, a token of affection amongst friends and family members. Your relationship with the recipient of one these greetings will dictate exactly how close the kiss is. For strangers, or people we have just met, a little distance between the kissers is best.

Just lean in, and drop a quick one on one or both cheeks, taking the other’s hand briefly. If this is someone you know, or have known for a little while, but aren’t particularly close to, grasp the wrist, forearm or elbow instead. Essentially, the better you know them, the higher up the arm your hand goes. Between close friends and family, taking them by the shoulders, or even hugging them is appropriate, and a lovely way of expressing your joy and affection at seeing them again.

Special Tip - Mistletoe

The holiday kiss is in a special category all its own. Mistletoe is a tradition around Christmas time, and all too often an opportunity for someone to steal a kiss from a person who would not normally welcome such an action from the kisser.
Imagine the following: there is a particular individual who has been crushing on you for some time now, but from your perspective, the chemistry just isn’t there. Come the holiday season, he or she may decide that the fabled powers of Mistletoe are just what the doctor ordered, and approach you, mystical sprig in hand. What do you do?

Just present him or her with a cheek to kiss. Place your hands on the front of their shoulders. This puts you in a good position to better control the action, and gently push them away if necessary. If they try to dodge the cheek and go for the lips instead, just turn your head so that they hit the other cheek instead, and gently push them away, saying something like, “I’m so glad that we’re friends.”

It can happen that they don’t quite get the hint, and come back for more than one kiss. A good strategy to deal with this is to simply ask if you could borrow the Mistletoe, and herb in hand, head for the person you would rather be kissing.

Kissing Tips – The Romantic Kiss

In contrast to the social kiss, which is done with a little distance between the kissers, is the much closer romantic kiss. A romantic kiss is usually done in a more private setting, with the couple standing much closer together, even having their bodies pressed one to the other. Assuming that you’ve read the basics above, the romantic kiss then takes on a life of its own. It is intimate, personal, and private. It is you sharing your space with your partner, and in turn filling their space.

It may seem counter intuitive at first, but the most important aspect of the romantic kiss isn’t breath mints or proper technique, it is respect. You have been invited into another’s personal space, and the extent and duration of that invitation is not up to you. Let me put this another way: an invitation to kiss is not the same as an invitation to grab her butt! Respect the gift you have bee given, and enjoy the garden of delights found there. If things go well, the rest will follow when both of you are ready.

So if butt grabbing is off limits, then what on earth do you do with your hands? Hold your partner. Hugging and kissing is a wonderful combination, and classed classic for a reason. If hugging isn’t quite enough, holding your partner’s face in your hands can help to focus your attentions, and your passions into a kiss to remember. Touching the back of the head, the side of the neck and shoulders, or waist are also wonderful ways of enhancing your kissing. Just keep your hands out of the non-PG zones until you have been given permission, and you will be fine.

Beyond that, the best kissing tip I can give you is this: get into it. Relax, forget all the previous kissing tips, and let the whole of your attention be upon your partner, and the wonderful sensations that you two are enjoying together.

Kiss image courtesy of gimmeahug

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