For the most part, you could call me a believer in the Law of Attraction, and that you can use it to help in finding love. I say the most part because I don’t subscribe to the general idea that God, the Universal Force, Allah, or what ever you want to call Him/Her/It, is my servant, subject to, and beholden to obey my every whim. In other words, the only way I’m going to get the mansion on the hill is to go out and buy one.

What I do believe is this: we live in a symbiotic relationship with the universe, and the Universe does have our best interests at heart. It will even grant us our desires, subject to certain rules. The first, and most important rule is that what we want must be good for us. No self destructive fantasies allowed. Consider the following…

Let us suppose for a moment that as a 40-something man, I had a midlife crisis. Let us further suppose that as part of the course of this crisis, I suddenly found myself “needing” a blonde bombshell, appropriately dressed in a hot red Ferrari. As one who subscribes to LOA, I might try and manifest this fantasy. Fortunately for me, the Universe knows a thing or two that I don’t.

It knows that the blonde is a home wrecker. It knows that the only bombshell in this blonde is the one that will destroy my life. It knows that on one alcohol fuelled night of despair I would die in a fiery crash on Suicide Hill. It also knows that in this hypothetical situation, I would be an idiot, but that’s besides the point.

Instead of granting my wish, the Universe might provide me with the opportunity to get a decent tune up for the beater, and try to direct my attention back to my wife. One thing is certain to me: it will at all times try to get me the things I need, when I need them. Asking for them just makes it easier.

What does all of this have to do with finding love?

Allow me to answer that with a chapter out of Dawne’s life. Before she met me, Dawne didn’t have great luck with men. Since her early teens she had been on a quest for the One, the man who would love her for all eternity. Instead she wound up with wannabe rock stars and welfare cheats. By the time she was 20, she had all but given up. Her last boyfriend, though by no means the worst, was enough to make her do something a little different.

She stopped looking. Looking at men, looking for a relationship, looking for him. Instead, she declared to the Universe that it had to bring him to her. She wasn’t looking anymore, and that was that. Is it a coincidence that she met me just a few weeks later? I don’t think so. I think the universe stepped in and performed the introductions, as per her demand.

There a a couple of things that i would like to underline here: first, she had a very strong, clear, and focused desire. This was no passing fancy, but something that she really needed in the worst way. She was clear on what she wanted: the One, and refused to settle for anything else.

Nice story Marc, but how do I go about finding love?

I’m so glad you asked. The answer is “Make a List”. Make a list of qualities and attributes that your future partner must possess. (And just for the record, a Ferrari is not an attribute.) The two most important aspects of getting what you want are desire and clarity. It’s not enough to just “want” something. You must desire it with the whole of your being. It’s manifestation must be fundamental to your life. That’s why you need to make a list.

The list helps to clarify what’s important and necessary, and what is optional-but-nice. It forces you to really consider those things that you need from a partner. It brings him or her to the forefront of your consciousness where you will be far more receptive to their arrival in your life. Your list can include physical attributes, but should be weighted toward the less tangible aspects of a person such as kindness or attentiveness.

Though I never saw it, Dawne’s list was long and detailed. She knew exactly what she was looking for, and would settle for nothing less. As an aside, I fit the List so well that when her best friend of many years first met me, she did a double take, and still not convinced, promptly decided that she was having a dream.

The important things to remember are desire, clarity, and faith. Faith is the final ingredient in this alchemical soup called Law of Attraction. Believe that you are worthy of such a fine specimen of humanity. Believe that he or she is out there, just waiting to meet you. Believe that they want you as badly as you want them. Believe.

One final note: even if you don’t subscribe to LOA, the tips I have given are still useful for anyone in the process of finding love. Knowing exactly what you want makes it easier to get it, if for no other reason than it clarifies what it is that you don’t want. It certainly helps to sort the losers from the crowd, and lose them before you get in too deep. Once you have done that, you will find that what’s left is a small group, one of which could well be the love of your life. Or at least a great way to pass the time until she arrives ;-)

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