As we look for a suitable life partner, a great deal of emphasis is placed on finding someone who shares our interests, a person that we are compatible with. but is compatibility the best way to go? For Dawne and I, compatibility was not an issue, because we had almost none! This podcast takes a closer look at how your incompatibilities might be just the thing that you need to lift your relationship to the next level. Enjoy!
A final note about our book collection: the last time I tried to catalog our library, I gave up after hitting 2100 books. Of our vast collection, there are only perhaps 3 or 400 fiction books. The rest are all how-to and reference books, covering a wide range of subjects such as programming, business management, crafts, cooking and of course, spirituality. I keep thinking that I should try and catalog them (again), but somehow just never quite get around to it.
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Marc, you must write a book about this! You are SO right. Everyone should be asked to consider this when they’re ready for a romantic relationship—or ANY relationship, for that matter. You’re so clear in how you outline your thinking. You’d be great on the talk show circuit!
I could go on for hours about this; I don’t know where to begin. My husband and I are very different, also, but our attraction cemented our relationship even before we fully knew each other, and I choose to believe it’s because we absolutely were MEANT to be together. He proposed six weeks after we met, but I’d known after just three weeks that he was the man I’d marry! Differences didn’t matter; it was supposed to be. I just knew that, understood it intuitively. Amazing.
One day, I remember telling my mother that I was meant to teach my husband something [that I won't go into here]. I have no idea where that came from; goodness, I’d never even entertained such a thought! …but the words just popped out. And the instant they were voiced, I knew it was absolutely true. That set me to thinking: Why, then, was he brought to ME? I think I’ve finally figured it out. He brings me outside myself. With him, I’ve stretched far more than I ever thought possible; he opened whole beautiful worlds for me.
Our differences are EXACTLY what we need to give to each other and share together and that help elevate both of us to higher levels of being… We are both opening new doors within ourselves because of the presence of the other. We expose new facets of ourselves, are lifted…
One of the amazing things about this beautiful circle that is created by differences (yin and yang, if you will) is that we don’t even need to be aware of it. As long as we keep love and honor and faith and respect and all the goodness that IS the tie between us, then we WILL become “more.”
We can also apply the principle to friendships, to business, to ANY kind of relationship…