What happens when the one you love is an attentive lover? They search for ways to help you unfold both in and out of the bedroom. I’m very lucky because Marc is that way with me.

Our sex life was satisfactory: We both had our needs met and we understood how to make the basics happen with reliability. Our sex was actually lovemaking and very tender and had you asked me then, I would’ve said it was great. I didn’t think much about sharing what might be going on in my imagination, since I just used it to work my way to the end and at the end I often had more than one orgasm. Marc seemed to enjoy how things were as well, so I figured that what we had was pretty good. Since we knew how to please each other, we really didn’t talk much about our sex life: It worked and that was better than many had.

I was scared of sharing what went on in my head. I felt that he might be put off by my those thoughts and by how high my libido actually was. I was worried that he might think I was slutty or dirty, so my fantasies and desires were kept in my private mental closet; I never really told him much about what I wanted or what turned me on.

Marc’s chosen mission in life is to “Make Dawne Happy”. He doesn’t care about much else, even though he could probably do anything he wanted to. To him, the only thing worth paying attention to is his mission and if he can find anything to assist in making me happy, he will. He always chooses carefully and respectfully with the foremost thoughts that 1) I am precious, 2) I must be happy and 3) will his choice make us closer?

Those were his thoughts as he searched for ideas to enrich our love life. Then one afternoon, Marc told me he had found a computer game he was interested in showing me called Bliss. He was somewhat hesitant introducing it to me, knowing I would very likely be embarrassed about trying it. So, he made it safe for me and he told me we would do a “dry run”. This meant that we wouldn’t actually “do” anything, just see what was involved and how it played. Besides, it was just a demo and couldn’t get too intense.

Marc was right in that I would be very unsure about trying Bliss. As I said before, I was not very adventurous in the bedroom, because I thought he might be repulsed by how sexual I knew myself to be. In truth, it took three full days for him to get me to agree just to look at the game. What convinced me was Marc told me that the demo would only last for 60 minutes and we would just to see what the program offered; we wouldn’t do anything. This I could agree to. We put the demo on my laptop and took it upstairs for a “safe” run through. Looking back, I think the real reason that I was so reluctant had to do with being in a situation that potentially would make me reveal what I was actually like to Marc. However, at the time, I just knew I was afraid.

I’m not sure what I expected, but the game turned out to be a lot better than I thought it would. There were relationship questions as well as cuddly-kissy stuff. The activities got racier as we went, but they seemed to come up at the appropriate times and places. The activities themselves were pretty well thought out and were not all about the physical; they really had the feel of intimacy building. This was good. Marc let me sit with this for a few days, then he announced that he had a full copy of the game.

By this time, I felt I might be able to handle the situation (still thinking I could hide myself from him) so I agreed to try playing a full game. It started out safe enough - all lovey dovey stuff. However, as we went along, the game got into things that I hadn’t tried and I found that I was revealing more and more of myself to him. Marc, far from being repulsed, was more turned on than I had ever seen him. The next thing I knew, not only was I having an amazing time with him, he was having an amazing time with me!

Playing Bliss has led Marc and I to really talk about our desires. Our love life has gone from a satisfactory encounter to an adventure we share and find truly exciting. It has also inspired me to start researching women’s sexuality, a journey that has led to some amazing discoveries about my body and my sexual identity. Marc’s reaction to all of this has been better than positive; he is enthusiastically supportive of the changes he’s seeing in me.

Bliss gave me permission to really try things with Marc and I have to tell you that I am extremely glad I tried it. The game has allowed me to be adventurous, playful and even a little wanton, which for me was a huge deal. I love how I could (and can) be that way with Marc and as a result, I’ve become more open with him. Bliss has helped me to become radiant in the bedroom, opening a door I never intend to close again.

For a full review of Bliss, have a look at what Marc had to say. The game has an entry at Wikipedia and there’s a review by another woman over at Wired. But if you want to see for yourself how Bliss can open up the intimacy with your beloved, go over to Games For Loving.

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