Comments on: 6 Ways To Screw Up in the Bedroom

By: Dawne

Dawne — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 07:00:31 +0000

Hello Jack!
Sorry it took so long to reply…
I’m really glad that you enjoyed that story. I think Marc would say the most important thing to pay attention to is what is ACTUALLY happening and not the “plan” a person might have. Personally, I think he’d be right since it applies to everything. I’ve seen myself do it more than once in my interactions with other people… and I really do know better. I can be so slow, *sigh*.

By: Jack

Jack — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 02:54:46 +0000

Being a hopeless romantic myself, lifestyle and all, I couldn’t help but chuckle throughout this entire story. I’ve had similar situations, and although I’m still young, have made similar mistakes. But you make some excellent points. Thank you.

By: Dawne

Dawne — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:55:42 +0000

Dear Seth,
I’m very glad you found the article enlightening: That’s what it was written for. But I’m not sure why you’re feeling depressed. I don’t understand because of how and why the article is written. It is to point out that even when you and the object of your affections are total idiots about how to get together, if the feelings are real, the mistakes don’t matter. Marc & I have been happily obsessed with each other from the day we laid eyes on each other, whether we understood how the other felt at first or not. But the real point is, even though I’m a romantic throw-back, Marc’s feelings made it easy for him to overcome my lack. The truth lies in the heart. How you feel about her is the thing you need to take heed of and how she feels about you. What are you willing to learn? What are you willing to teach? Work through rather than deal-break: Marc wasn’t about to let my lack of understanding get in the way of our long term happiness. His thinking was and is always that I can learn whatever I lack and he can accept what is.

The lessons are 6 and it is the last that applies always to the one you love: “Be consistent with yourself, your feelings and your lover: Even if you have conflicting feelings or are insecure, tell them about it as honestly as possible.” Remember, finding one that makes your world spin is rare, so maybe you want let yourself get caught up in the whirlwind, rather than becoming depressed and letting go.

By: Seth

Seth — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 05:09:50 +0000

I found it enlightening to read because I felt as though I had been going through something similar for a few months now with someone I really like.Unfortunately however after reading this, I discovered that the mistakes my potential girl-to-be had been making were about to become irreversible blunders. Now, the 5 lessons just makes me feel depressed =(Thanks anyway. I still think they are honestly useful for any situation.

By: Dating

Dating — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 23:15:26 +0000

Thanks for submitting this post to the Dating Blog Carnival. I absolutely loved your story, and thusly it earned it’s spot into this week’s edition (posted tomorrow): http://dating.about.com/b/2008/06/12/dating-blog-carnival-8-is-it-getting-steamy-in-here.htm

By: Dawne

Dawne — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 19:16:50 +0000

Hi Robin!
You always make us feel so great about what we’re doing: Thank-you so much!
If you want a really good giggle, have a look at http://www.incurable-romantic.com/daily-love/no-pets-in-the-bedroom. The incident that the story is from made me laugh so hard I cried (at a rather bad time :-)). I think you’ll appreciate it.

By: RainforestRobin

RainforestRobin — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:50:29 +0000

How wonderful! …and honest. Amazing that you share this so openly. Good for you! I appreciate it as I am a very open person. I also found it warm and humorous….and such delightful and typical human nature. People can see that they are not the only ones who have been through something like this. I just love it. You guys are GREAT!!

By: Alitta

Alitta — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 09:21:03 +0000

Excellent! I really enjoy reading the story. Also thanks for the advices, i’m sure they will be very useful

By: Dawne

Dawne — Sat, 31 May 2008 23:50:56 +0000

Hey Ange!
I really agree with you on the mistakes part. When I was a teenager, my best (female) friend and I had a saying:
Men make mistakes; women have “learning experiences”. Sexist, I know, but that was back before PC was the way to go. But seriously, it was Marc who saved the day. REALLY lucky to have such a wonderful man as my one and only!

By: Ange

Ange — Sat, 31 May 2008 23:36:13 +0000

I have to say that it was an amusing read as I was thinking back to how Chris and I got together and the “mistakes” that we/I made when we got to that place of letting our feelings known to each other. I think that “mistakes” are good and essential as we let our true personalities out in the heat of the moment so it is a way of getting to know your partner. As for the relationship that has followed, I look forward to reading more of what is to come. Remember that we do learn from our mistakes too.